How to Reboot So You Can Have Better Sex
Is fitting sex into your daily life a struggle? “Everybody I know is crazy busy, overscheduled, and running,” says sex therapist Sheri Winston, RN, CNM, LMT, author of Women’s Anatomy of Sexual Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Pleasure. Given your hectic schedule, you might not even notice that the intimacy you once enjoyed is now just tired sex, if it’s happening at all. But there’s reason to turn the situation around: A better sex life improves your health and overall quality of life.
Tired Sex Reason №1: Relationship Problems
One of the leading reasons you may say you are too tired for sex is that you don’t want to face a problem in your relationship. “It can be a lot easier to say you’re tired than to sit down and say there’s something we need to discuss,” notes Winston. Anger and resentment are among the emotions that could be contributing to tired sex. If you still can’t face the conversation alone, air it out with a therapist and rebuild your sex life.
Tired Sex Reason №2: Too Much TV
“It’s easy to flop in front of the TV at the end of a long day,” Winston says. And then, before you know it, your partner has gone to sleep (alone) and you are fading, too, or facing sleep deprivation. Winston advises turning the screens off early and cuddling instead to jump-start your sex life. “It’s terrible to have a television in your bedroom, which should just be for intimacy and sleep,” she says. This advice applies to screens of all sorts — for better sex, remove work and video games from the time and space devoted to intimacy.
